What a week this has been. 

I normally do not share my most intimate relationship details. I like to keep my private life, well, private.

I like it this way.

And the fact that I like it made me think... I only like what I like. I post photos of my relationship, videos on Instagram and Facebook of the good parts. But rarely the challenging parts.

My partner and I had a pretty heated conflict this week that has taken our relationship to another level. 

It brought us to a point where we were forced to sit in our most frightening vulnerabilities. 

During the incident, I proclaimed I would not be a protector, provider, or rescuer. I made a commitment to myself a long time ago that I would drop those old codes that smelled like old patriarchal paradigms. 

Would I save her from a burning building? Yeah of course!

Would I be there if she needed help? Absolutely.

Would I just about anything for her? Anything? Mmmm... just about. LOL 

What I meant was that I...

In this video, I describe my personal experience with jumping into relationships right away! 

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In this video, I share three of the most important lessons that I learned from all of my breakups.

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There is no question.

I used to feel ashamed to express this in the past.

In my defense, I really didn't know what a healthy relationship looked like.

I grew up in a household where open-hearted conversation and resolution were not a thing; in fact, it was quite the opposite.

Yelling, screaming, anger, and disconnection were not only normal but acceptable, and tolerated.

So, mirroring what I saw, I went from one relationship to the next, looking for happiness and joy, and I carried all that coded dysfunctionality with me.

Hoping that my own relationship experience would create some stability I never had.

Desperately looking for that safety that didn't exist outside of me.

So from one woman to the next, I created, and shortly after it all fell apart.

Over and over again.

It took many years to get me to realize that no matter whom I was with, I was the constant.

That nobody out there was going to save me or make me happy.

That it was my job and my responsibility.

A better version of...

In this video I talk about how staying in contact with our exes, during the healing phase of a breakup can actually be extremely harmful and stop our healing progress.

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In this video, I talk about some of the truths and realities of our past and current choices.

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IDENTIFYING YOUR PERSONAL VALUES
FREE 5-STEP WORKBOOK

I am excited to introduce you to the values workbook

A practical book with exercises that will help you discover what you truly value so that you can create the life that you are in love with.

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or Radical Self Care Boundaries https://www.mikefanelli.com/selfcare

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