Honest question for you.
Do you find yourself trying to control how people view you?
What they think about you?
What they say about you?
How they experience you?
And is this cycle of serving others over yourself exhausting the hell out of you and zapping your energy?
If you’re nodding your head "yes" at your screen right now, but aren’t sure how to stop this sneaky habit, I have something I know you’re gonna dig.
What is it?
I was LIVE on Instagram. You can also watch it here on @divinesoulconnection to talk about it.
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Answer the following questions to help you understand why it feels like a discrepancy between your authentic self and the person you needed to be.
How much of our time do we waste trying to cover who we are when all we really want is to be loved? How much energy do we spend being angry, when underneath it all is the pain that our soul needs revealing? How much of our presence is consumed when we hide in fear of not having the faith to heal?
So often we hesitate to speak our mind, being direct, and allow our truth to flow. We’ve been so used to adding layers of comfort and protection that we often forget how to feel the world around us. So we contract. A thin layer becomes a full armor and we begin to feel lonely, overcompensate, disconnect, disassociate, and the best parts of us, dissolve, and over time diminishes our sense of joy and peace.
It can often feel like when we put a pair of gloves on a cold winter day. We touch things within our grasp, but we forget how they really feel. Almost holding too tightly as our “sense of feeling” has faded, like the warmth of our soul. Like a cold winter night, the...
The oscillation between progress & resistance is a natural part of our growth journey.
Moving towards the light of our awareness calls out those demons inside us that get in our way of progress.
Our wounded ego, our wounded inner child, our psyche does not want to give up the stories we've created in our minds.
This journey often triggers deep resistance within us.
This oscillation to resistance serves an important role, however. It reminds us of our human-ness; it tests our commitment; it highlights where we want to self-sabotage.
Our responsibility is to turn that awareness into insight and stand up to those forces inside us that want to give up and remain in our dysfunctional patterns because it's so much easier than doing the work of adulting.
This is what resistance looks like: FEAR, SHAME, GUILT, AGGRESSION, JUDGEMENT and many more that serve only one purpose: to protect that part of us, the ego that wants to resist transformation, growth, and eventually our divine...
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We often believe that this journey is about going from point A to point B. That point B being this state of enlightenment, bliss, a new place we've never been before. But the heroic journey is not a voyage from A to B.
This journey closely matches that of our intimate relationships.
Hear me out.
We leave a familiar surrounding of childhood, subconsciously seeking to have our unmet needs fulfilled. We navigate wounded, bare, hopelessly seeking, passing through various partnerships and conflicts, heartbreaks, and unknown territories, only realizing that those needs are still not being met.
So we blame the other, we get bitter, frustrated, desperate, and then eventually we give up, stay single because "it's easier." Slowly, we silently blame ourselves, settling into a state of inadequacy. Wishing and WAITING that one day, that person will appear.
Because childhood needs are the same as we need in adulthood, this journey (if we are brave to embark on it) carries us back to where we...
When I look back upon the first 30 adult years of my life, I see how asleep I truly was. I was "thriving." I had the education, the career, climbing the corporate ladder, the houses, the cars, "the wife", the social and family life. But to be honest, I was not truly paying attention. I was asleep. I was lost.
I was living a life based on my cultural and societal conditioning. I got a job I was taught to have. I was raised believing in a religion I did not completely agree with and followed the relationship blueprint. The reality is I was on cruise control, living a life following a GPS location in which the destination was set for me. I didn't really question any of it, well, because that's what people did, and disabling the destination instructions would open up a door to shaming, guilting, and even possible societal scrutiny.
I was in relationships, but they all lacked intimacy. Why? Because I avoided all the hard conversations that required me to get uncomfortable, naked, and...
This past full moon was extremely challenging for me.
I noticed myself reverting to antiquated limiting beliefs, patterns, and fears related to a future state.
My level of attempted self-sabotage reached "next level" proportions.
This took some doing, reaching out to friends, and all the tools in my box, but I remained in alert presence through the process.
I observed myself creating these elaborate stories on what should happen, what might happen, and what it would look like—a prevalent theme for me—something I discovered in Vipassana a few years ago.
I go to a future state, try to control, and take massive action.
The other scenario is it paralyzes me and I sabotage a good thing, hide, disconnect, and justify it with my rational mind completely ignoring my intuition.
Sometimes I like to think I have this figured out… The reality is, I don't.
Even the world's most celebrated "coaches," "experts," and PHDs, don't have their wounds of the soul...
Love is a "FINAL SALE"
Do we often feel RIPPED OFF when we loved them so much and got nothing back? Absolutely.
Do we feel like we want a refund? It appears that most of us do. BUT THINK, for a moment.
Love is Love.
Limiting how we love with the expectation of someone loving us back the same way is unrealistic at times, but not just that. Loving wholeheartedly and then wanting a refund because they didn't show up? May seem like great retribution. It feels good... fuck'em, right?
BUT wait, this means we are going against our own nature to go "whole" in and then maybe regretting it -- it's just not part of the LOVE no refund policy!
LOVE is the highest frequency in which we can vibrate on. The more we love, the more we rise to those realms that only a few can reach. Isn't that how we want to vibrate?
Our ability and effort to show love and create love and be loving is our soul's highest calling. The inability for someone not loving us back, not receiving our love or not thinking...