In order to process and move through past endings, the mind begins to construct stories and narratives of why the ending happened and what the breakup means about you.

This can be a really difficult part of the process because if we haven't looked at the deeper beliefs we hold about ourselves consciously and unconsciously, then our feelings of unworthiness and the story we've been telling ourselves our whole lives will receive the evidence it is looking for.

By connecting deeper to the stories and what they mean, we are able to better process the heartbreak and better understand and build more awareness. So you know more and build strength and courage with what you do know and learn from it.

That being said, not all the versions of your story are a true representation of you or a reflection of you.

What a week this has been. 

I normally do not share my most intimate relationship details. I like to keep my private life, well, private.

I like it this way.

And the fact that I like it made me think... I only like what I like. I post photos of my relationship, videos on Instagram and Facebook of the good parts. But rarely the challenging parts.

My partner and I had a pretty heated conflict this week that has taken our relationship to another level. 

It brought us to a point where we were forced to sit in our most frightening vulnerabilities. 

During the incident, I proclaimed I would not be a protector, provider, or rescuer. I made a commitment to myself a long time ago that I would drop those old codes that smelled like old patriarchal paradigms. 

Would I save her from a burning building? Yeah of course!

Would I be there if she needed help? Absolutely.

Would I just about anything for her? Anything? Mmmm... just about. LOL 

What I meant was that I...

In this video, I describe my personal experience with jumping into relationships right away! 

www.mikefanelli.com/unrelationship-blueprint 

In this video, I share three of the most important lessons that I learned from all of my breakups.

I've created a workbook and it's a guide. It's a workbook on creating healthy boundaries. Because it is the best way to uplevel your relationship with yourself and with others. I urge you to download it.

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There is no question.

I used to feel ashamed to express this in the past.

In my defense, I really didn't know what a healthy relationship looked like.

I grew up in a household where open-hearted conversation and resolution were not a thing; in fact, it was quite the opposite.

Yelling, screaming, anger, and disconnection were not only normal but acceptable, and tolerated.

So, mirroring what I saw, I went from one relationship to the next, looking for happiness and joy, and I carried all that coded dysfunctionality with me.

Hoping that my own relationship experience would create some stability I never had.

Desperately looking for that safety that didn't exist outside of me.

So from one woman to the next, I created, and shortly after it all fell apart.

Over and over again.

It took many years to get me to realize that no matter whom I was with, I was the constant.

That nobody out there was going to save me or make me happy.

That it was my job and my responsibility.

A better version of...

In this video I talk about how staying in contact with our exes, during the healing phase of a breakup can actually be extremely harmful and stop our healing progress.

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3. or Radical Self Care Boundaries https://www.mikefanelli.com/selfcare

In this video, I talk about some of the truths and realities of our past and current choices.

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IDENTIFYING YOUR PERSONAL VALUES
FREE 5-STEP WORKBOOK

I am excited to introduce you to the values workbook

A practical book with exercises that will help you discover what you truly value so that you can create the life that you are in love with.

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or the UnRelationship Blueprint -https://www.mikefanelli.com/unrelationship-blueprint

or Radical Self Care Boundaries https://www.mikefanelli.com/selfcare

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